Sunday, August 3, 2008

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

No,i'm not talking about our fav sitcom-though i'm always game for tht-i mean chandler n phoe-no-we'll talk about them some other day.

so it ws friendship day tday-jst another day fr the multiplex age to send cute emoticons and metaphorically imaginative messages-i really dnt see wt the fuss is all abt-but of course its no denying tht friends are an inseparable entity in our lives-but the question is who really is the frnd! no matter hw much we deny friends exist at various levels-lets take a look at them-

level 1- people with whom u go from a "joyful hello" to a "lukewarm smile or a cursory nod" to ultimately "do i know u"..these people come nowhere close to the definition of frnds though ur orkut profile may contradict..but the fact tht u arent close frnds is neither ur fault or his(forgive me fr only refering to "his",its jst tht my association with its counterpart has been limited to negligible)..u jst werent destined to go further

level 2-this is what i wud call the "pretend to be frnd" stage,usually with ppl with whom share smthin in common or hv done so in the past-same batch,same class back in school,same karate class(if u went fr one tht is) but somehow ur compatibility factor remained low-these r ppl with whom u'd merrily chitchat n gossip but an invisible barrier stops u frm openin up-we consciously or intuitively make efforts to conceal our true self from them-this wasnt destiny's fault-it gave u ample time together but maybe jst that the purine in ur dna din't match with pyrimidine in his(pure shitty reason i know)

level 3- now u r talkin..a very simple way to know if u hv moved to this level-when u take the freedom to hurl abuses at the other person without worrying abt any ignominy of awkwardness-thts it-u r nt pretendin anymore-u generally share otherwise censored stuff with these ppl apart frm the usual hangin out n chitchat-of course this may manifest itself differently in different ppl but i'm no management guru who'll explore the subtleties

is there a higher level!!
well lets say tht if all ur thoughts were password protected and smone were to have the access key-then maybe u cud call it the level 4-the pinnacle of frndship...

1 comment:

Tazz said...

wel u noe my actual passwords,,,correct yarrup???so goin by tht,,,vr ryt thr,,,ahanahan!!!
nic analysis tough u missed on d 'bhai' aspect 'f frndship!!!lemme thrw sum light on dis>>>
out 'f 2 frndz,,,whn 1 hates d othr n d othr cmpltly misjudges dis n rather pretends or happens 2 b unaware 'f d realty,,,thtz whn they elevate thr frndship status 2 ~~~bhai'ly~~~status...